Fighting the good fight?

I've heard the saying "Fighting the Good Fight". What about fighting for yourself? I think it's easier to fight for someone else, most times, than it is to fight for yourself. Perhaps that's because it's easier to see the way out while you're already on the outside. But when you are the one who is lost, the way out is never so easy to find.

Tonight, I watched a woman get her ass kicked by her husband. What's worse is know exactly how that feels. Fortunately, I was watching a movie tonight. Still, it brought back bad memories of trying to get out of my own situation, once upon a time. It's funny how some things just hide away in your mind until a spark ignites the memory. Looking back, it seems like the opportunity to leave was always there, and that I just couldn't see it until the damage was done and there were no other options BUT to leave.

Besides the "fighting" saying, I've also heard that "To forgive is to forget." Now, I don't know that I believe that whole-heartedly. I do think that I've forgiven him for the past, but there is no way that I will ever forget something that was a symbolic turning point in my life. He made me find my voice. He made me say "I'm not happy anymore." THAT is a powerful statement right there. Not too many people can say it. I can. I have, more than once.

Know this. No one can hurt you unless you let them. You CAN always walk away, although sometimes, most times, it's not always easy. And, if you can't make yourself happy, how do you expect to make someone ELSE happy? It's true.